This is an article from CNN I found interesting and
it is certainly an eye-opener for the West who is not aware or do not know anything
about the marriage market in China. This is quite common practice happening in
China and some of the Asian countries.
Article
By Katie Hunt, CNN on November 4, 2013 -- Updated 0157 GMT (0957
HKT)
- Beginning of article –
Shanghai (CNN) -- Liu Jianle smiles
as he spots a potential suitor for his recently divorced niece among a sea of
white personal ads pegged to a board.
Pencil
in hand, he jots down the man's details -- 33 years old, 1.7 meters tall (5
feet 7 inches), 140 pounds, a property owner, divorced but no kids.
The
only wrinkle is that his salary is $800 a month, not high by Shanghai
standards. No matter, says Liu, his niece has a good job.
Welcome to Shanghai's marriage market.
Mister or Miss Right for their children.
Some
write posters by hand listing their offsprings' vital statistics -- height,
age, income, education and their hukou or registered hometown -- and pin them
to umbrellas or shopping bags. Others come with a notebook to see what is
available.
Liu
is a veteran. He found his son a wife here and they've been married for more
than a year.
"She's
1.69 meters tall (5 feet 6 inches) and beautiful like a movie star," he
says. "He was happy to get the introduction."
With
young Chinese told to put education and work before finding love, many struggle
to find boyfriends or girlfriends, a source of deep concern for their parents
in a society which emphasizes the survival of the family line.
Worried
family members are joined by professional matchmakers, who try to make a living
from the unusual gathering.
The
city even organizes an "annual love and marriage expo" to help young
people find love that attracts 18,000.
"A
lot of kids who were born after 1980, they don't have siblings. So they grow up
in an environment where you don't have the experience to meet with people of
the opposite sex," Song Li, the founder of an online dating service, told
CNN at the event in May.
The
market has been around since 2004, says Li, who runs a professional matchmaking
service from the park. With almost three times as many women looking for
partners than men, it can be difficult to make a successful match.
Men
can register for free, while she charges a fee of $500 for her female clients.
She
also has an age limit; men born after 1970 can sign up, but women must be under
33.
"There's
a shortage of superior men," she says by way of explanation.
It's
a similar story at Fan Dongfang's booth. He says he matches 20 to 30 people a
year and brandishes a clutch of wedding invitations as if to prove it. He also
has a glut of women on his books.
"There
are too many leftover women in Shanghai," he says, using a popular term to
describe an educated, single, urban woman over the age of 27.
"Their
standards are too high."
While
the numbers stack up in favor of Chinese women -- according to the China
Statistics Bureau, there are now 34 million more men than women in
China -- this doesn't mean they will pair up easily.
Chinese
men tend to "marry down" both in terms of age and educational
level, observers say. Plus, many of China's unmarried men live in the
countryside.
Distance
is no obstacle to the parents' matchmaking ambitions, nor is their children's
consent.
One
mother displays a handwritten A4-sized poster in a clear plastic wallet seeking
a match for her 36-year-old daughter, who works as an accountant in Toronto.
The market has an "overseas corner" for parents who have children
living abroad.
"I
can't give you my name because my daughter doesn't know I'm doing this and I
don't want her to find out," she says.
- End of article -
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